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Child Loss: 40 Ideas to Mark Your Child's Death Anniversaries

Updated: Jan 14

Child loss, grief, and death anniversaries

This might be one of the most common questions I get from grieving mothers.

"How can I mark my child's death anniversary (or Angel Anniversary) in a meaningful way?"

The short answer is that there is no right or wrong way to mark the day. You can stay in bed with the blankets over your head if you choose to do so. However, I have found that these horrible days are a wee bit easier to handle when we make a plan.

The plan can be as big as a large gathering or as small as a lighting a candle.

Here are just a few ideas to help you create the plan that is right for you:

  1. Release butterflies

  2. Release ladybugs

  3. Host a BBQ

  4. Buy a star

  5. Send cards to your friends and family with a special photo of your child.

  6. Do a random act of kindness in your child's memory

  7. Watch your child's favourite movie

  8. Eat their favourite food

  9. Donate to an organization that is meaningful to you.

  10. Host a "Light up the Night" with solar lights.

  11. Release environment-friendly balloons

  12. Release flying wish papers with a note to your child.

  13. Get a psychic/medium reading

  14. Have a self-care day

  15. Organize an honorary 5-km run

  16. Start a scholarship

  17. Download digital photos into Shutterfly to make a photo album

  18. Start a non-profit

  19. Create a PowerPoint with special photos and music

  20. Have a Champagne toast

  21. Sign your organ donor card

  22. Donate blood

  23. Volunteer at your local food bank

  24. Purchase a naloxone kit to carry or donate

  25. Take your child's favourite baking to work or his/her school

  26. Order a Starbuck's coffee with your child's name so they call it out when it's ready

  27. Have your child's T-shirts made into a quilt

  28. Donate some of your child's clothing to an organization

  29. Look through old photos with loved ones

  30. Go for a hike to your child's favourite spot

  31. Start an Angel Garden in your yard or local park

  32. Place a bench in a meaningful spot

  33. Plant a tree

  34. Buy an angel ornament for your garden or Christmas tree

  35. Take flowers to the cemetery or place them in your home with your child's urn.

  36. Plan a candlelight or fireside memorial

  37. Plan a trip to a special place

  38. Spend time journaling your favourite memories together

  39. Make a charitable donation in their name

  40. Release some of their ashes in a special spot with friends and family.

  41. You also have permission to do absolutely nothing. That is absolutely 100% ok.

Child loss is hard. Hopefully this list gives you a few ideas to mark this difficult and emotional day.

I have also created a list of over 85+ ways to get through your child's birthday, Mother's Day, Christmas, and all the other significant days of the year. Each holiday has mix-and-match ideas.

child loss and death anniversary ideas

From my grieving heart to yours,

child loss and grief expert

Lisa K. Boehm,

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