Updated: Oct 17
When your child dies, you miss them with every ounce of your being. You ache to have them back and all you wish for is one more conversation and one more hug. Those who don't believe in the spirit world may think that the signs you find or sense are born from your intense sadness.
I have had a keen interest in science and health since I was a kid, so it's no surprise that I found myself working as a health care professional for 29 years. Science made sense to me and explained how and why things worked the way they did.
But when I look back in my life, I have also had a knowing of and connection to the spirit world. My grandmother called herself a gypsy and read tarot cards for friends and spoke of the spirits that visited her. When she passed from this world into the next, her spirit visited me. It was the first spiritual encounter that I recall. That moment solidified my beliefs and was foreshadowing for what would happen when my own daughter died.
When my daughter Katie died in a car accident 22 years later, she visited me in spirit in the exact same way that my grandmother had. The dark room I was in was covered in dancing light for about 20 minutes, yet in my shock I didn't understand why and I didn't have the energy to try to figure it out. When the two figures presented themselves in the doorway enveloped with Katie's perfume, there was no denying that my daughter and grandmother came to let me know that Katie was safe on the other side.
I pinched myself and questioned my sanity at the moment, yet I am 100% sure of what I witnessed.
Since then I have experienced numerous dreams, visits during meditations, and loads of signs from the other side. Based on my own experiences, I have grouped these signs into 7 categories: electricity, fragrance, creatures, objects, numbers, dreams, and sounds.
Electricity. Have you ever picked up your phone and noticed that it opened to a text or strange message that you didn't have open? Or the lights flickered just as you were thinking of your child in heaven? At the precise moment that Katie was being cremated, our phone rang twice with a caller ID that we have never seen before or after that moment.
Fragrance. Have you ever been walking down the sidewalk and are flooded with the scent that you KNOW is your child in spirit? This happened to me the night Katie died and also in a dream. In my dream, I woke up from the intense scent of her perfume and sensed her standing beside the bed with her hand on my leg.
Creatures. Ladybugs, dragonflies, butterflies, bunnies, deer, or any other living thing that brings you a sense of knowing. Oftentimes, the animal will sit calmly as you near when they normally flee or a flying creature will fly around you or land on you or sit near you for extended periods of time. Right around Katie's first heavenly birthday an orange and black butterfly came into our yard. At that time we rarely had butterflies in our yard. That day, a butterfly sat beside Katie's stepping stone and gently moved it's wings like it was waving. Every so often it would fly in a circle around the backyard then come back to rest near my feet. This lasted almost 30 minutes. I knew it was her.
Objects. This might include feathers, pennies, dimes, or heart shaped item like a rock. The coins may have a special date on the back relating to an important year or event. Even though Katie died in December and here in Canada things are usually frozen and the birds have all flown south, I found numerous feathers - white fluffy feathers too! Some of my findings could have been reasoned away, but one afternoon a friend of Katie's stopped by the house for a visit. We had been visiting for about an hour when I looked down at the couch cushion between us. There were three fluffy feathers between us that weren't there before. When I went to get a little bag to put them in , Katie's friend found another feather on the coffee table and another on the floor by his feet. Neither the couch cushions nor his winter jacket had feathers in them.
Numbers can present themselves in digital clocks, license plates, page numbers or any other way that you can imagine. Spirit often communicates in the form of repeating numbers like 111 or 44, but they can use any number that is meaningful. A friend and I went to see Theresa Caputo's show. On the way there, I told my friend that I had been seeing 444 everywhere! As those words came out of my mouth, a car with the license plate 444 pulled in front of us. As if this wan't enough, Theresa Caputo gave me a reading at the show and referenced the recurring number and the car on the way to the show that night.
Dreams. I think it's safe to say that we all want to dream of our children in heaven. Sadly, we don't always remember our dreams, but dreams are a way in which spirit can interact with us. I remember one dream vividly where Katie came through the front door as she often did and said "I can't stay long mom, but I wanted you to know that it's all so beautiful." Then she was gone.
Sounds. When certain songs come on the radio or you get ringing in your ears randomly, it is spirit trying to get your attention. They might be telling you to pay attention or the lyrics in a song might contain a message for you. Not long after Katie died, I was in a coffee shop and John Lennon's Imagine came on the sound system. That was Katie's favourite song.
When you receive messages from your child in spirit, you just know. Intuitive experts say that we will recognize the sign from spirit right before our brains (ego) argues that it was just a 'coincidence'.
If you think something is a sign - it is!
Start keeping track of your dreams and any other signs either in a journal or a document on the computer. It's wonderful to look back on your experiences especially on hard days.
Wishing you all many, many signs from your child,
PS: To encourage connection to your child's spirit try meditation. I have created a free guided meditation to help you. It's very relaxing. You can request it here: https://www.lisakboehm.com/meditation-for-grief