Living with Child Loss: One Grieving Mom's Perspective
Updated: 2 days ago
The grief that accompanies the loss of a child lasts a lifetime.
Grieving mom, at times your grief might be so painful that you feel overwhelmed. You may find it hard to see the point of living and want to find a way to make it stop.
Learning to live with your child's passing is as unique as you are, so we will all find ourselves on different timelines when it comes to coping.
Grief changes over time.
As time passes, the balance between good days and bad days shifts and gradually you will find you have more good days and fewer bad days. But these changes are gradual, and each person is different, so the balance for you may not be the same as someone else after the same length of time.
Some of the physical symptoms of grief, such as having trouble sleeping and losing your appetite, also change and decrease over time for most grieving mothers.
Unfortunately there will always be those times when you feel overwhelmed by grief, even if you had previously been feeling better. It might be a special day or a song on the radio that can trigger overpowering emotions.
It can be very frustrating when others think enough time has passed and you should move on maybe because our grief makes them uncomfortable or because it hurts them to see us feeling so broken.
However there is no timetable for grief that outlines how you should feel after a particular length of time. It is completely normal to feel profoundly sad for more than a year, and sometimes many years, after your child has died.