When you lose your child, you feel pain mentally and physically, but your soul breaks open too. Our spirit is often ignored when we begin working on our grief.
Meditation is one way of connecting with our soul and the Universe; opening ourselves up to eternal love and healing and letting go of what no longer serves us.
The term "letting go of what no longer serves us" was new to me after I lost Katie. Then a Reiki practitioner gently pointed out that I was hanging on to anger and fear so tightly I could barely function. She taught me that no matter how much I worried or held on to jealousy or bitterness, I could not change anything.
In those early days of grief, I could barely pay attention to a conversation, much less empty my mind. But what I could do was sit quietly and imagine that with each breath I breathed in healing, love, understanding, kindness, and hope and that I released all that no longer served me; anger, bitterness, fear, blame and guilt. I might have only been able to do that for 10 minutes at a time, but I could do that.
And I truly believed and could see with my mind's eye, those heavy and debilitating emotions, leave my body.
Next, I started listening to guided meditations. Most of them were geared towards falling sleep but I tried different meditations so that I could find those that resonated most with me.
I know this can all sound a little woo-woo and not something that you might picture yourself doing, but I challenge you to give it a go. And not just once. Try to create a habit by meditating first thing in the morning or last thing before you go to bed.
I wish I was a master meditation guru and could provide you with all kinds of recordings to help you on your journey through grief, but I am not. To give you an easy place to start, I have included a link to a free 30 day meditation challenge I found on the web. There are also free online yoga programs on this site too, so take a look. I'm always happy to share resources with you that I believe will help you.
Let me know how it goes!