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The Lessons Grief Taught Me: A Grieving Mother's Journey

Updated: Feb 8

The road through grief and child loss is one I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I would sell my soul to the devil himself to have Katie back. Yet, as a grieving mother, I feel like I have learned so much. I named my book Journey to HEALING because it is a road; an uphill hellish road and harder than any of us could imagine.

I struggle to say that there is good in Katie’s death or any child’s death, but I will say that I have experienced so much transformation and learning which has affected all areas of my life.

Katie will forever be woven into the fabric of my life and she will continue to guide me from beyond. While not a day goes by without some pain and sadness, wishing she were here with me, Katie’s death has taught me more than I ever thought possible.

Here is what I have learned:

Life is short. It is a gift not to be wasted. The days will pass no matter what. We can pass the days in pain or in peace.

It’s okay to cry. This is our way to release the pain.

We don’t always have to be strong. Own your feelings; lean into them. Stay there as long as you need, but don’t stay there forever.

Crying is a human reaction and it’s healthy. We must grieve in order to move forward.

It’s alright to lean on others. We need each other. We can’t travel this path alone.People want to help. Help them help you by saying yes. Try to be patient when they stumble on clichés and don’t know what to say. Everything comes with good intentions even if the execution seems hurtful.

It’s okay to laugh on this journey. Katie had the most infectious laugh and laughed loud and strong. Laugh with warm memories and love in your heart.